Post # 1
If this is against TOS, please let me know where it should go…but I don’t know where to ask the question. Is there something inappropriate that I’ve done in my conversations with bees here? I’m a bit concerned by a recent mod comment to me that said “all I do is argue lol”
I definitely feel that I am well-rounded in all of the types of comments I make here (from rings to dresses to politics to TTC), but maybe that’s not how it’s being perceived? And is there a better forum to speak directly with the mods? I’m not sure if this is the best avenue. Thank you!
Post # 2
I wanted to add that there have been plenty of hard conversations here lately about racism that I’ve been involved with and I hope that’s not where the mod was coming from. I have an inbox with 4 different messages related to those threads where people have thanked me, asked me to continue being vocal on the boards, and we’re continuing to have productive conversations privately. Happy to email a screenshot and remove personal information since I know posting a private message is a TOS violation).
Or is the issue about the content? Does Weddingbee not want content about political or social issues on its forum? I ask because this is the first time I’ve been moderated and told that “all I do is argue” since I joined back in 2016. Which also coincided with me having a passionate conversation about racism yesterday and agreeing with today’s thread that many posts about “real” issues are being heavily moderated.
Then, in a ring thread with multiple users doubting OP, I was the only one moderated. Thread: https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/cant-find-my-diamond-band/
Would love to hear back. Thanks.
Post # 3
ETA. Mod updated me that I am being considered argumentative because of continuing to derail the topic of this thread, in which OP implied that white allies were racist by telling them to examine their racist behavior on page 1 and then actually said “white allies without racist behavior and microaggressions are rare” – https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/hard-tips-for-white-allies/page/9/#post-12118575
I did flag OP’s comment but I also commented back and forth to explain why that is an offensive statement. So did multiple others. At least 4-5. I’m sure that this statement must fall under a violation of Weddingbee’s TOS. None of OP’s comments regarding this were ultimately moderated. What should I have done in this scenario? Is it considered to be derailing the thread if I continue to engage in the conversation with an OP that I disagree with as long as I communicate my perspective respectfully?
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2021 - City, State